Forgiveness enables you to bury your grudge in the icy earth and
put the past behind you. You flush resentment away by being
the first to forgive. Forgiveness fashions your future. It is a brave
and brash thing to do. The gutsiest decision you can make. As you
forgive others, winter will soon make way for springtime as fresh joy
pushes up through the soil of your heart.
Forgiveness is a stunning principal, your ticket out of hate and fear
and chaos. I know what regret feels like; I’ve earned my credentials.
But I also know what forgiveness feels like, because God has
so graciously forgiven me. Forgiveness frees you of the past so
you can make good choices today.
The practice of forgiveness can play an important role in your relationships
with others. Forgiveness will enable you to correct distortions in your relationships
and to improve the quality, intensity, and meaningfulness of relationships. It means
letting go of past resentments toward others so that you can experience them
in the present. Even if you do not "feel" like forgiving someone, forgiving them
will release you from the hold of the past and allow you to experience the world
in a new way. To forgive is to step outside the vicious circle of interpretation,
where concepts from the past dominate experience, and to begin to live in terms
of a larger, more worthy purpose. Forgiveness eliminates fear
and anxiety, weakness and vulnerability.
Forgiveness is at the heart of a healthy and happy life. Forgiveness protects relationships. It also protects the person who does the forgiving. Forgiveness is a method for giving love. It is a way of saying, "I am going to let go
of the wrong you did; I am not going to be bitter and I am going
to go on loving you anyway."
God heals through forgiveness and asks that we do likewise. Attack is an easier response than forgiveness, and that is why we are so tempted to give into it. Throughout our lives we have seen more anger than examples of true forgiveness. Forgiveness does not mean that we suppress anger; forgiveness means that we have asked for a miracle: the ability to see through mistakes that someone has made
to the truth that lies in all of our hearts. . . .Forgiveness is not always easy.
At times, it feels more painful than the wound we suffered, to forgive the one
that inflicted it. And yet, there is no peace without forgiveness. Attack thoughts towards others are attack thoughts towards ourselves. The first step
in forgiveness is the willingness to forgive.