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Thursday, March 31, 2011

LIFE- 101....rules to follow

“Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs


How do you feel about your life today? Are you living every day in exuberance? Do you love what you’re doing? Are you excited every single moment? Are you looking forward to what’s coming up next? Are you living your best life?
If your answer to any of the above is a no, maybe or not sure, that means you’re not living your life to the fullest. Which really shouldn’t be the case, because your life experience is up to you to create. Why settle for anything less than what you can get? You deserve nothing but the best. 


This is a list of 101 timeless principles to live your best life. As you live in alignment with them, you’ll find yourself becoming more conscious, more alive, and more importantly, experiencing life on a whole new level. Be sure to refer to it daily to guide you to your best life.


Here are 101 ways to live your life to the fullest:


1.Live every day on a fresh new start. Don’t be held back by what happened yesterday, the day before, the week before, the year before, and so on.
2.Be true to who you are. Stop trying to please other people or be someone else. It’s better to be an original version of yourself than an exact duplicate of someone else.
3.Quit complaining. Don’t be like the howling dog, always howling and never doing anything. Stop complaining about your problems and work on them instead.
4.Be proactive. Stop waiting for others around you to do something and take action yourself instead.
5.Rather than think “what if”, think “next time”. Don’t think about things you can’t change or unhappy things because these are disempowering. Instead focus on the things you can action upon.
6.Focus on WHAT vs. How. Focus on WHAT you want first, before you think about HOW to do it. Anything is possible, as long as you set your mind, heart and soul to it.
7.Create your own opportunities. You can wait for opportunities to drop in life. Or, you can go out there and create your own opportunities.
8.Live more consciously each day. Stop sleepwalking through life. Your life is something to be experienced, not coasted through.
9.Be committed to your growth. Achieving higher consciousness comes from your commitment to growth.
10.Know your inner self. This means knowing who you are and what you represent. Be clear of your personal identity.
11.Discover your real life purpose. Set the mission statement for your life; one that will drive you to live your life to the fullest.
12.Live in alignment with your purpose.
13.Set your life commandments. Define your personal commandments to live your best life.
14.Discover your values. Values are the essence of what makes you, you.
15.Hold yourself to the highest conduct. Every one of us have our own set of ethics, principles and moral codes. Live true to them every day.
16.Design your ideal life. There are no limits in life – only those you set for yourself!
17.Stop putting life on hold. What is one area of your life you have been putting off/avoiding/denying? Uncover it and start working on it.
18.Create your life handbook. Your life handbook is your life-long personal manual to live your best life – from your mission statement, your values, your long-term goals, short-term goals, personal strengths, blind spots to address, plans, among others. Create your book first then build on from there.
19.Set your goals. After you design your ideal life, set your 5-year, 3-year and 1-year goals. The more specific your goals, the better! 
20.Take action on your goals and dreams. Create an action plan with your strategy, plan and immediate next steps.
21.Create your bucket list, i.e. things to do before you die. Then, get out to achieve them.
22.Don’t do things for the sake of doing them. Always evaluate what you’re doing and only do it if there is meaning behind them. Don’t be afraid to quit the things that don’t serve your purpose.
23.Do the things you love, because life is too precious to spend it doing anything else. If you don’t enjoy something, then don’t do it. Spend your time and energy on things that bring you fulfillment and happiness.
24.Discover your passion in life. What sets you on fire?
25.Make your passion a full-fledged career. Then, start pursuing it. Stop working in a job you are passionless towards. Quit your job when you are ready to do it full-time.
26.Turn your passion into a huge success. Turn your passion into a multi-million dollar business. Better yet, make it a multi-billion dollar one.
27.Learn from criticism. Be open to criticism but don’t be affected by it. Criticism is meant to help you be a better person. Learn from it.
28.Be positive. Is the glass half empty or half full? How about neither? It’s actually all-full – the bottom half is water, the top half is air. It’s all a matter of perception. Take on empowering perceptions, not those that bind you. If you can see the positive sides of every thing, you’ll be able to live a much richer life than others. Purge unnecessary negativity from your life.
29.Do unto others what you would like others to do unto you. The law of reciprocity – Golden Rule
30.Don’t complain or badmouth about other people.
31.Be empathetic. If everyone only see life from his/her own perspective, we’ll forever be close-minded and insular. See things from others’ shoes.
32.Be a compassionate person. Show compassion and kindness to everyone around you
33.Develop 100% self-belief. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Remove your limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering ones.  If you don’t believe in yourself, how can you expect others to believe in you?
34.Let go of an unhappy past. This means past grievances, heartbreaks, sadness, disappointments, etc.
35.Forgive those who may have done you wrong in the past. “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and realize it was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes
36.Let go of attachments. Don’t fixate yourself with a certain status, fame, wealth or material possessions. These are impermanent and will ultimately disappear one day when you die. Focus on growing and living life to the fullest instead.
37.Let go of relationships that do not serve you. That means negative people, dishonest people, people who don’t respect you, people are overly critical and relationships that prevent you from growing.
38.Spend more time with people who enable you. Hang out with people who you compatible with, like-minded people, people who are positive, successful, strong achievers and positive for your growth. You are after all the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.
39.Build genuine, authentic connections with people around you – strangers, friends, family, colleagues, business partners, customers/clients, etc. Spend more time to know them better and foster stronger connections.
40.Connect with an old friend. There is no end to the number of friends you can have. Reach out to people from the past.
41.Do a kind deed a day. What is something you can do today that will make the world a better place? Go and do it.
42.Help other people who are in need. Voluntarism is one outlet. You can also start with your friends and family.
43.Help people when they least expect it, without reason. You don’t need any reason to help others. Do it because you want to. Share the love with everyone.
44.Go dating (if you’re single).
45.Fall in love ♥
46.Review your life. Set a weekly review session to assess how you are doing for your goals and your life. Review your purpose once every 3-6 months too so you know you’re on the right path.
47.Overcome procrastination. Procrastination is a huge waste of your time (and your life). Get rid of it once and for all.
48.30 minutes a day. Set aside at least 30 minutes every day to work on a goal.
49.Get out there and make new friends – whether in your workplace, online, friends’ friends, social groups, etc.
50.Be your advisor (from the future). Imagine you’re the future you, 5 years later. How would you advise yourself? Write it down. Now, apply them.
51.Write a letter to your future self. Actually, write 3 letters – for yourself in 1, 3 and 5 years. The longer the letters, the better. Envision how you’ll be like in the future. Make each letter a minimum 2 pages long. Now, seal them and put them in a safe place. Set it in your calendar so you’ll know to open them when it’s time. This will inspire you to work your hardest and achieve your maximum results in the time period.
52.Declutter. Start from your computer, then your table, your room, your bag/wallet, and your home. The more you throw the unwanted and old stuff away, the more room you’re creating for new things to enter.
53.Keep learning. There is something to learn from everything you see, hear and experience. This includes your mistakes and past misshaps. Learn to interpret each event objectively. Focus on what you can learn from it so you can apply them moving forward.
54.Keep developing yourself. Equip yourself with a huge breadth of knowledge. Learn different skills, pick up different hobbies, study different fields.
55.Keep upgrading yourself. Equip yourself with a huge depth of knowledge. While you can usually only level up to 99 in video games, in real life you can level up to infinity. Go for further studies if need be. Develop your skills. Level up. Build your >10,000 hours in each skill.
56.Try new things. What’s something you’d normally not do? Get out of your comfort zone try something different. It can be something simple like taking a new bus route, trying a new food item, picking up a new hobby, or something bigger like studying a different field, picking a new skill, traveling to a country you’ll never visit, etc. You set your own limits.
57.Get yourself out there. This applies for everything. (a) Get out there geographically. Go out, travel and explore the world. Set sail into the sea. Go backpacking by yourself and visit as many countries as possible. Get on a road trip and visit the different places that come out. (B) Get out there situationally. Stop sticking to routines and comfort zones. Try something different. (c) Get out there in life. Stop watching TV and living vicariously through the TV characters. Go and live the life of your dreams.
58.Be the absolute best in what you do. Go for the #1 position in what you do. If you want to spend your time doing something, you might as well be the best in it. Strive for the best – you don’t deserve anything lesser than that.
59.Don’t settle. Don’t settle for less. Don’t settle for someone you don’t like as your partner. Don’t settle for a job you don’t like. Don’t settle for friends who make you feel like a lesser person. Don’t settle for a weight you are unhappy with. Go for what you really want.
60.Stretch yourself. What are you doing now? How can you achieve more? Set bigger goals. Explore your limits and break them.
61.Embrace new ideas. Don’t mentally limit yourself; Let your mind be a breeding ground for new ideas. 
62.Create your inspirational haven. Turn your room into a place you love. Do the same for your work desk. Get rid of things that make you unproductive. Surround it with things that inspire you and trigger you to action.
63.Behave as your ideal self will. All of us have an ideal vision of who we want to be. How is your ideal self like? How can you start to be that ideal self now?
64.Set your role models in life. With role models, you become much better than you can be by yourself.
65.Get mentors and/or coaches. There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Not only will they drive you to achieve more for yourself, they’ll also share with you important advice which you can use to create even more success for yourself.
66.Uncover your blind spots. The more you uncover, the more you grow, the better you become.
67.Increase your consciousness. The more conscious you are, the more evolved you become.68.Ask for feedback. As much as we try to uncover our blind spots (#66), there will be areas we cannot identify. Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective. Some people to approach will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively.
69.Generate passive income. Create passive income streams so your income is not tied to the time you spend on your work. Of course you’ll still continue to work, but only because you want to and not because you have to.
70.Help others live their best lives. There is no better way to grow than to help others grow. Ultimately, the world is one. We are all in this together.
71.Get married / Start your family / Have kids!
72.Improve the world. There are many things in the world that need your attention and help. Poverty. Disaster recovery. Illiteracy. Children in need. Depleting rainforests. Animal rescue. Endangered species.
73.Spearhead a humanitarian cause/organization you are passionate about.
74.Give more value than you receive. There is so much unspeakable joy that comes from giving. And when you keep giving, you’ll find that you actually receive a lot more in return.
75.Be big picture focus. You can either set your eyes on the big things or get hung up by the nitty gritty details. The former will help you get a lot more out of life than the latter. Focus on the big rocks in life and put first things first.
76.Be clear of your end objective. What is the end goal you seek? Is what you’re doing bringing you there? If not, put it aside. As long as you keep taking on things that meet your end goal, you’ll eventually reach there.
77. For every goal you have, there are different paths to achieve it. Pick out the most effective path that brings you there the fastest with least amount of effort.
78.Prioritize - Focus on important tasks and cut out the less important ones.
79.Live in the moment. Are your thoughts wandering around all the time? Calm your mind down. Be present. The only time you’re ever living is in this moment. Meditation helps to remove mental clutter.
80.Relish in the little moments. Snuggling under warm covers on a rainy day. Ice cream on a hot day. A kiss with your loved one. Being with your best friend. A walk by the park. The breeze on your face. Quiet, alone time. Watching the sun rise/set. Soak in all these little moments of life. They are what make up your life.
81.Take a break. Being the best also requires you to take breaks when needed. Make sure you rest when needed.
82.Stop wanting things a certain way. Life is not perfect !
83.Focus on creation.
84.Don’t criticize or judge others. Respect others for who they are.
85.The only person you can change is yourself. Stop expecting others to behave in a certain way. Rather than demand that others around you change, focus on changing yourself. You’ll be happier and live a more fulfilling life this way.
86.Embrace gratitude. Be grateful for everything you have today, and everything you will get in the future.
87.Express gratitude. Let the people who’ve touched you know of your gratitude towards them. You’ll be surprised what a little act like this can do. If you don’t tell them, they’ll never know.
88.Let loose and have fun. Sing at the top of your lungs. Dance in the rain :D. Run barefoot and feel the ground underneath your feet. Release of your self-imposed shackles and be free :D.
89.Get into nature. Many of us live in concrete jungles. Soak in the beauty of nature.
90.You have a choice. Recognize you always have a choice in how to live your life.
91.Laugh more :D. Are you reading this with a straight face? Smile and have fun :D.
92.Embrace change. The only thing that’s constant is change. Change means growth. Rather than resist change, learn to versatile such that you can make the best out of the changes that come. In fact, become an agent of change.
93.Be more risk-inclined. Don’t be afraid to take risks. The bigger your risks, the bigger your return.
94.Embrace mistakes. The more mistakes you make, the faster you learn. Make sure to draw lessons so you can build on them.
95.Embrace disappointments. Many people try to avoid feeling disappointed. They develop a resistant relationship with disappointment. However, disappointment is part and parcel of being human – it reflects your real passions. Don’t resist it – instead, embrace it. Understand it, then channel into it to create more in life.
96.Challenge your fears. All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing. Rather than avoid your fears, recognize they are the compass for growth. Address and overcome them.
97.Maximize your mind, body, heart and soul. Living your best life requires you to maximize yourself mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually.
98.Be your best self. It’s only through being the best we can be that we live our life to the fullest.
99.Love yourself. You are the person you have to live with for the rest with your life. Treasure and love yourself.
100.Love others. Be grateful for all the people around you because they help you to grow. They enrich your life experience. Without them, your life would not have been the same.
101.Last but not least: Love life. I always find living to be a fascinating experience. How we’re all on earth, with millions of species, 30,000 different life forms, over 7 billion people, and all thriving in its own way, existing, co-existing and in co-creation mode. There’s so much we don’t know out there, so much to be experienced in life, that it’s just wonderful.