Monday, April 18, 2011


 Just like everyone else, I am afraid of change. I am trying to work through this fear because it is one of those things that really holds you back. It brings to mind this quote from Ephram Brown from 'Everwood' ...."The more things change, the more they stay the same. I'm not sure who the first person was who said that. Probably Shakespeare. Or maybe Sting. But right now, it's the sentence that best explains my tragic flaw, my inability to change. I don't think I'm alone in this. The more I get to know other people, the more I realize it's kind of everyone's flaw. Staying exactly the same for as long as possible, standing perfectly still... It feels safer somehow. And if you are suffering, at least the pain is familiar. Because if you took that leap of faith, went outside the box, did something unexpected... Who knows what other pain might be out there, waiting for you. Chances are it could be even worse. So you maintain the status quo. Choose the road already traveled and it doesn't seem that bad. Not as far as flaws go. You're not killing anyone... Except maybe yourself a little. When we finally do change, I don't think it happens like an earthquake or an explosion, where all of a sudden we're like this different person. I think it's smaller than that. The kind of thing most people wouldn't even notice unless they looked at us really close. Which, thank God, they never do. But you notice it. Inside you that change feels like a world of difference. And you hope this is it. This is the person you get to be forever... that you'll never have to change again."

We're so afraid of change that we stay still for as long as possible. If there is something in your life you don't like, change it. Change is always possible. So get out there and change. Chances are you'll be glad you did. There is always that possibility that change could bring something worse, but at least you tried and you learned, and now you're ready for another change. So change until it brings you joy and happiness.

You must welcome change as the rule but not as your ruler.
Denis Waitley

Change is the end result of all true learning.
Leo Buscaglia

If you want your life to be more rewarding, you have to change the way you think.
Oprah Winfrey

The best way to change another person is to change yourself.
Wally Amos

Things do not change; we change.
Henry David Thoreau

Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.
Sydney J. Harris

Being ready isn't enough; you have to be prepared for a promotion or any other significant change.
Pat Riley

Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people
can change the world. Indeed. It is the only thing that ever has.
Margaret Mead